Friday, 25 February 2011

Jealousy

One of the deadly sins isn't it? ( Envy is if you want to be absolutely correct).  Can team members fall prey to this sin and is it the manager's burden to sort out?  In these days of equality and diversity, how do managers allocate different tasks to different team members without awakening the green monster?  When you have say, two members with the same job title, and the same job description, but one employee will get the 'juicier' client or project, and one of them is female and the other male; or one of them is white and the other ethnic; just how do you prevent the team member who 'lost out' on the juicier bit of work from getting jealous? Have the HR bells been clanging by now?  Yet, the problem is so much more intrinsic isn't it?  I have this constantly at home with my three kids.  My intial bout of generosity with one child usually ends up costing me more ( "well, TJ got £2.00 so why can't I have £2.00 too?!  If TJ and Analisa gets £2.00 you've got to give me some too!!) - and yet I say, I love them all equally, so what made me even think I could get away with just giving one child a bit of money without having to make up for the others? Well, sometimes it's because I was presented with justification or I created the justification ( TJ helped me unload the dishwasher), sometimes it's a case of who shouts loudest (please please pleeaasssse), and sometimes it is downright discrimination - he's the youngest ( please be kind and don't ever let on!). But it doesn't make me love the other 2 less.  And this is what I get from managers-  " I get on with all my staff and treat them the same...but..."  - so have a good think about what protected characterisic ( yes that's right, let's get used to this Equality Act terminology!) is underlying that decision to give someone a juicier job!

Monday, 7 February 2011

Discipline

In my last blog, I asked for help to get me into the discipline of writing my own blogs regularly.  Now, about a week after, I'm frantically trying to recall a superb topic that I was going to blog about, since then - but it's gone. The discipline wasn't there to blog about it immediately!!  It occurs to me, if bosses and employees got into the habit and discipline of saying the things that are uppermost in the mind at the time - be it praise or a slight grumble, things wouldn't get forgotten or blown out of proportion so much , wouldn't it?  Storing it up is just no good: one, you forget what you originally were going to say or what you actually felt at the time; two, it becomes old hat and irrelevant, and the context is gone(think about the times people say, "well... it was funny at the time") ; and three, you turn into a procastinator.  The sin that loves me most- it doesn't know the meaning of unrequited love!